You're in a particularly gnarly position around asking for help. We've grown up in a society that values independence over interdependence, individualism over connection, and that pressure is particularly imposed on males, who need the connection and the interdependence the most.
It's a bfd to reach out and ask for help - it takes vulnerability and authenticity. There's huge power in those two. It's also massively important modeling for your kids when you do.
And yes to highlighting the ease in responding to specificity over vague offers of help.
You're in a particularly gnarly position around asking for help. We've grown up in a society that values independence over interdependence, individualism over connection, and that pressure is particularly imposed on males, who need the connection and the interdependence the most.
It's a bfd to reach out and ask for help - it takes vulnerability and authenticity. There's huge power in those two. It's also massively important modeling for your kids when you do.
And yes to highlighting the ease in responding to specificity over vague offers of help.